The December Reset: Goals Built on Truth
December should be different when you’re honest with yourself
Most people start goal setting with a wishlist. Maybe it’s a new habit. New routines. New year. New mindset.
Goals only work when they sit on a foundation of truth. Not hope.
Here’s my simple reset I run every December.
I ask one question:
What am I avoiding?
That question exposes the real goals. The ones that matter. The ones that move your life forward instead of keeping you busy.
I seam to be avoiding fitness. I have a long history of martial arts. The goal of fitness should be easy for me. It’s not.
You’ve seen this in your own story. Every breakthrough in my book E-Lonely came from honesty. The hotel room. The flat tire. The betrayal that forced you to rebuild. Those moments stripped away the performance. What stayed was truth and action. We need that reset.
Start with this process.
1. Look back before you look forward
Pull out your calendar. Review the year. Where did your time go? Where did you lose energy? Where did you gain it? That’s the real scorecard.
2. Ask the question that stings
What did you avoid this year?
A hard conversation. A real boundary. A simple habit.
Your avoidance reveals your next goal.
3. Build one goal for each part of your life
Keep it simple. One for work. One for health. One for family. One for self.
Use your Founder’s Wheel to guide the categories.
If the wheel was uneven this year, set goals that straighten it.
4. Set the minimum, not the maximum
Big goals collapse without systems.
Write one minimum action you will take every week.
Make it so simple you can do it on your worst day.
5. Anchor your goals to identity
Ask yourself:
Who do I need to become to make this happen?
That question matters more than the goal itself.
You don’t rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems. When you build from truth, you build from strength.
So here’s your December reset.
Face the truth.
Set goals that match the person you’re ready to become.
Now ask yourself something sharp:
If next year looked exactly like this year, would you be proud of that or frustrated by it?